Soliek
It sounds like you are assuming that any kid OTD or the like is that way because the family isn’t “normal.”
There are so many kids that come from normal families who fell through the cracks due to getting involved with the wrong crowd or internet….
Our system has its problems and the main problem is we aren’t teaching people self control and responsibility. We teach people that they are kids and have forever to grow up. How many of these kids who “don’t fit the mold” will have a ton of excuses why they do or did drugs or other things they shouldn’t have? At the end of the day we enabled a situation where we have older teens who are in all kinds of trouble yet we call them “kids” we pretend that they are kids so of course its not their fault that they have problems.
I know plenty of people from messed up families and the only reason they got somewhere in life is because they decided to take responsibility for their lives.
We have to stop tolerating all this garbage and stop enabling kids to think that they have an option to go off the derech.
Stop rewarding bad behavior and start teaching discipline and responsibility and most problems will go away.