Reply To: There is no Perfect System…

“We, as a frum society, has put so much effort into learning Torah…I think we have forgotten one of the most important prerequisites: honesty and kindness towards others.”

i think thats a bit much…i mean one hopes that one would acquire good middos through learning torah…

but ill put myself out there for a second and say how it applies to me. as some of you already know because i cant keep quiet about it my family situation got really messed up three years ago. my mother became abusive, my grandmother fell apart, and i was basically left, as an 11th and 12th grader, to fend for myself. so my priorities shifted from learning and participating in school to earning money to pay for my next meal. it wasnt that i didnt care about the torah, that i didnt think yeshiva was important, it was just that i had priorities that most other kids dont nor should have.

so i started skipping school and my grades fell. when everyone else was looking for a beis medrash to attend for the next year, i had already made my decision to leave and find a job. and thats what i did. i went through some rough times but i think ive emerged ok…my rebbeim didnt approve of my decision to work straight out of high school and they may have been right to an extent, but i had problems that most other bachurim didnt have and therefore i had different concerns.

so theres your perspective, a basic idea of what i meant by that OP. discuss away 🙂