We gave all our kids two names – their Jewish names are exactly the same in English, so no secular names were given.
2. “Do you tend to name after relatives or great Torah scholars?”
I did both. My youngest son actually WAS specifically named for one of our arguably greatest Torah scholars AND also for a family member who was a Rosh Yeshivah.
3. “Would you name a boy after a female relative?”
Probably not, but it is a moot point for me.
“I won’t ask the other way around, since it’s clear this is not a good idea (kedusha should go upwards).”
HUH?????????
4.”Would you name a child after a non-choshuv relative (some will do this, but will have a different more choshuv person in mind when actually doing the naming. It matters not what you tell your relatives in terms of who the baby is named after – you know the truth)”
Everyone is choshuv, but I know what you meant. My father-in-law O”H was not a frum man, but he was one of the biggest Baalei Chessed I have ever been privileged to know. He was niftar shortly before my son’s first son was born, and they named the baby a first name that stands for Yerushalayim, and gave him my shver’s name for his middle name.
5.”And do you give you children English names? If you only give them one Hebrew name, would you give them an English middle name?’
Nope. I never gave secular names to my own children. What my children decide to do for THEIR children, is their decision. One child did give a secular English name, the other child chose to keep the Hebrew first name as her child’s secular name. In the case of the children who were given secular names, those names mostly reflect the Hebrew, i.e., if the Hebrew name were Dovid, the secular one would be David.