Not justifying spitters and screamers here! Not at all! But think about this for a moment.
So the chilonim and Dati types have a right to their lifestyle. Who are the chareidim to tell them where to sit on a bus, and how to dress in the street? But don’t the chareidim also have that right? They want to sit separate. They want their children to dress in a certain way. So you say well, not in Yerushalayim. It’s an international city. Everyone wants to be there. Not right to put such restrictions on the hamon am like that. Better go somewhere out of town and build your own community, then you can have your own standards. So they go to Beit Shemesh or Emmanuel or Monroe or New Square or Lakewood or wherever, you fill in the blank. Now they can’t live as they wish in their own neighborhood? And people come to their place and say, no its not right to impose your standard on us. Well, that’s why they went away from the big yishuv! To start their own, because they also have freedom to live and worship as they please!
Why are only the chilonim and Datiim allowed to live as they choose? Why aren’t the chareidim allowed that same option? They, and their wives, and their children choose happily to live like that. So why does it bother everyone if chas veshalom someone wants to be a little frummer?
When it comes to gashmiyus, there is a bare minimum. But when people strive for more than the requirements, it is considered laudable. But when it comes to ruchniyus, everyone says, “But that’s a chumra and not required.” So what if its not required? Why can’t people strive to lead a higher lifestyle in kiyum hamitzvos?
Once again, not justifying the spitters and the harrasers! Just the desire to elevate oneself should be seen as an ideal!!