“family life that AFAIK the Torah does not directly address”
Sorry, I’m not sure what AFAIK means. Please rephrase.
“can’t get married, feel alienated…, have no friends”
This, I cannot accept. No one “cannot” get married, find a community that is suitable, or make friends. True, you might not be a good fit in XYZ community, but nothing is stopping you from finding the place that is right for you.
Same goes for friends. You may not be able to run with the A++ crowd, but so what? Neither can I, and I have several friends. Perhaps not the ones that make headlines, but ones who are happy to hear from me and vice versa.
Lastly, finding a shidduch:
EVERYONE has a match. As long as you are clear about what YOU want in life (and not what the neighbors, Sem teachers say you should want), the process is much eaiser.
(and please tell me what AFAIK means, as I really want to address that question)