I have said many times to the at-risk kids I have been privileged to work with “If a goy would hurt you like that would you say all goyim are bad and run away from them? Why do you judge all frum jews and yiddishkeit by those who give in to their yetzer horah and do bad things? Don’t keep score, Hashem will hold them accountable for every child they hurt and for every hurt they caused. Everything is written down and they will have to account for it after 120 when they meet their maker.”
I see a light bulb go off when I point this out. It gives them food for thought.