Daas Yochid: where’s the proof that the population growth is as high as you claim it is? That was never proven to us; just repeated over and over until it is taken as fact. Who says there is such a high population growth from YEAR to YEAR? Until that point is proven, many people will continue to not trust the whole age gap theory. How about it’s a social crises that caused a shidduch crises. In the litvish world, more than in any other group, there is a huge emphasis on the highest bidder and the prettiest girl. The chassidim do things differently in many ways. Who says the fact that they marry the boys younger is why they don’t have a shidduch crises. How about it’s because of how they look for a shidduch in the first place. Of my entire chassidishe class, the poor girls and the fat girls did not get engaged later than the rich or pretty girls. Not so by the litvish. You can have great girls, but they are dirt poor and they are standing around for years. Look at the Bensonhurst community; many great girls with depth and real ben torah material but their fathers are very poor. Do you know how many of them are older and single. You’ll never find that in the chassidishe world. Same with weight. I know of several wonderful, truly wonderful, intelligent, kind, erliche litvish girls who are somewhat overweight and they can’t even get a date. The first question shadchan’s ask is “what size is she”. Once again, you don’t find this in the chassidishe world at all. Fat girls, poor girls, they get married at pretty much the same time the rich or pretty girls do. So who says it’s the age gap problem. How about screwed priorities social problem where litvish boys think they are God’s gift to humanity and if this year’s graduates don’t have enough rich pretty girls, no problem they’ll wait for next year’s.
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