snjn you’re raising valid points. Do you know who is to blame for the arrogance of these boys? MOTHERS. Shadchanim can tell you stories about MOTHERS of boys.
Shadchan: I found a size 2 girl for your son
Mother: I heard this girl was a little rondelette (plumpish) as a child, how do I know she won’t become a size 4 after giving birth?
In addition to skinny and beautiful, the mother requires the girl to have been Valedictorian, have gone to BJJ (ivy league seminary) be multi-talented, organize choirs/dances, and the list goes on and on.
The irony is that when it comes to their daughters, these same mothers are appalled at the boys’ expectations!
Mothers must stop feeding their son’s egos with the wrong values. Boys are raised to believe “Es kimt mich – I deserve”. So first these boys create a shidduch crisis with lots of single girls, and then they create a new crisis with lots of divorcees because these pompous guys make lousy husbands!
End result:
Thousands and thousands of unmarried Jewish females.