Snjn:I have several friends in the Bensonhurst community who are really tochendig, are would be the types to have long term torah learning but because their father are dirt poor they are in their mid 20’s and still sitting.
How do they plan to support their husbands in their holy, long-term learning? Do these girls have college degrees and jobs? Or do they plan to live “pas b’melach”?
If so, then do the boys want that? Why should they live a difficult life learning when they can marry a rich girl and learn with less tirdos?
Perhaps these boys aren’t as shallow as it sounds and would theoretically marry a poor girl but they are afraid that they will eventually be forced to work to feed their family, and they’d rather not take that chance if they want to learn long-term, especially when there is an alternative – marry a rich girl.