in my opinion the marriage in the end is for the guy and the girl- no one else! being this is what it is it should be their opinions in on this thing not others trying to force things upon them they dont want. i believe this is a major reason for many divorces -people r semi forced into things by the thoughts of their surroundings but a person should not become a product of their life “oh this happened so i guess this is what has to happen because ‘A’ happened” also we have to keep in mind
1)not everyone wants a kollel guy (i dont i just want a guy who learns but will also support)
2)someone may want a guy younger than them (i dont but each have their own opinions)
3)Hashem chooses our basheret 40 days before we are born so if a person is having “issues” finding the one then its not the time yet so its not really a “crisis” only looks like it in our eyes dont worry hashem does not make a shortage of guys theyre here in the world somewhere