Now, I’m confused. Are you telling me that, there is a shortage of girls who would be willing to consider a working boy? And that only boys that tout the party line will get calls?
Yes. Boys who are not learning will not be able to get the frummer girls. If a boy is not planning on learning, he will not be able to date as frum girls. There have been threads about this.
Oomis: Your point is that it is not the girls fault- it is how they are taught. Agreed. I was responding to the notion that the pressure was coming from the boys. I was saying that the pressure really comes just as much from the girls. Of course, it is neither’s fault- it is how both are taught.
But, the girls are more at fault, since the girls are much more shallow about it. For example, it is well known that a girl who is looking for 3-5 years of learning will date a 22 year old who is planning on 3-5 years, but will not date a 25 year old who is planning on 0-2 years- even though both will end up having learnt until 25-27. (and in fact, the older boy has already learned those years, so they are guaranteed.)