” In fact, contrary to your beliefs, you’ll find that many girls’ (as well as boys’) schools educate their students as to the aspects of both lifestyles. They don’t put down working (it says in the kesuba that it is a man’s responsibility to support his wife, and if it’s not possible for a man to learn full time due to financial or shalom bayis reasons, it is even recommended that he go out to work-I have this on word of a very well-known Rebbitzen)”
chelsealew,i know i’m butting in a little bit but your post brought back some memories. in 12 grade about 6 weeks before graduation, my principal came into the classroom and gave us a nice shmooze on the beauty of living a kollel life, what i “really means” (qoutes on purpose) to live a life for torah. oh and that was the first time we ever had such a shmooze. very sad the way they did that.
in seminary, 1 teacher used to start many topics “IY”H when you are living in Lakewood and your husband is sitting in learning and you don’t have a lot of extra money lying around…” and when i heard those words, i zoned out. i don’t think once the entire year this teacher, a choshuv Rebbetzin, say the words working and husband next to each other. what? you mean girls DON’T want to marry a working boy and they ONLY want learning boys?(SARCASM!!!!!!!) guess what rebbetzin’s, all your preaching didn’t work. i’m looking for a working MAN. not a boy. not a boy who wants to sit in kollel than figure out what to do when he realizes more than 1 salary is needed. in HS and sem there was no mention of both life styles. if you asked me, i might of said your kidding right. maybe where you come from yes they discuss both, but not where i am. i’m am very proud to say i am looking for a working man, who will support his wife. i am a traditionalist. the kasubah says the husband supports his wife.