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If the problem is that there are more girls than boys, why do we not start breeding more boys? But on a serious note, I agree with oomis1105. It’s not just that there are no programs or any kind of functions for singles to meet, before they are ‘old’, if a boy and girl (20 years old) would meet and get married, most people would start spreading rumors and think this couple is off the derech. Girls in seminary should be able to go to ‘Ben Yehuda’ on Motzai Shabbos and it should be encouraged. Maybe they will meet someone nice and want to get married. And if it is encouraged by the schools, the girls wont feel like they are hiding anything or doing anything wrong and they can speak to their rebbitzins about it. When its done behind the backs of the schools and parents, that is when bad can come out of it. The psychology of teens that are meeting without shadchunim is obviously that they are commiting a cardinal sin since it is so frowned upon. If it would be permitted and not looked downly upon, it can be very kosher and effective.