“Social programs which they are entitled to…”
That’s the main problem right there – the belief that social programs are an entitlement. NO ONE is entitled to anything. Those social programs were instituted as a short term stopgap to help people who were temporarily out of work, unable to get a job, disabled/ill and unable to work, or unable to earn enough to live on, even though they were working. It was not meant as a weekly stipend to pay off the bills and buy the groceries of people who were NOT ready, willing, and able to step up to the plate. If the wives are earning the living for them but it is not enough to live on, those guys should be out in the workforce. Period.
My tax dollars and yours are paying for their entitlements. And while I financially support Torah institutions of learning, I do not want to be forced to subsidize someone who is avoiding his fiscal responsibilities to his family. If he is physically or emotionally unable to earn a living, I will be the first one in line to offer money if I have it. Otherwise, hit the road, Jack, and pay your own way through life, as we did. And yes, learn Torah when you are not at work, or get a job that allows for free time for limud Torah.