Shaindel
You have to know that your kid wants to grow and learn. Even if they don’t seem to be “knowing right from wrong” at this point in their lives. Many many girls come to seminary the way you describe and leave completely different. Had they had not gone to seminary they would have never had that chance to grow and change and define themselves..figure out who they are without their friends and family and community.. Again, this is why that year that seems so unreasonable is so important..otherwise they are stuck as high-school minded girls. And yes..there are guys in yeshiva who have the same issue.