Hi gavra.
Everyone I know who came about orthodoxy through kiruv is inspired, dedicated, and very respectful every time they are in shul, for example.
I cannot tell you how many people I look up to who learn and know a lot and who I respect for that; BUT…they are always schmoozing in shul, during leining, during the reading of the Megilla as of late.
While I can understand people dont always feel inspired, and I can also understand that I dont know what it is like to be doing this from birth, still, I wonder how they let their involvement dilute to the social. They seem to have lost admiration for the Torah, physically and spiritually.
Something is wrong. I believe that when you start to “know”, you have no other option but to show great respect for all that is Jewish.