Postal- Being a divorced man I must tell you that no, you don’t stay married because of the thought 2nd time may not be better. If a couple is getting divorced there better be good reason for it, and I agree with the poster that said better to be single ur whole life than to stay in an abusive relatinship or for that matter a horrible relationship that can’t be fixed and I mean no way to fix it. There are instances where you can be the best spouce possible but that won’t do anything for the marriage. I experienced it. As far as the guys being the trouble, I don’t know where u got that from, every divorce is different at times they’re both “good” people but not for eachother at all. And at times one may never be a good spouce to anyone they’ll marry. Well all I can tell you is that all the stats and all the data of divorced people, good or bad, there’s a creator who runs the show and sends one they’re zivug sheini too, its not at all different than the first time around in this respect. As far as the hishtadlus part that we do, It definately reccomended to spend more time with the prospective husband or wife before deciding to get engaged so you get a real feeling and understanding of who they are. Date for months if that’s what’s it takes. And to all those out there looking for ur spouce first timers or second, Hashem is the one you should be talking to, after all its all in his hands.
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