I agree with you on this.
At this time though, I’m going to make a connection between your comment here and some comments you posted on the Shadchanus Gelt thread. Please don’t get offended by this as I have no idea who you are.
Kolel life is not for everyone and it is a great zechus to be able to stay in kolel for so many years..But lehavdil just like Harvard is not for everyone neither is 5 or 10 years for everyone.
Just like not everyone belongs in Kolel and not everyone belongs in Harvard, so too, not everyone belongs in Shadchanus.
The problem, in my opinion, with shadchanim these days is that there is lots of money involved when an idea comes to fruition, but no consequences, even for malicious behavior, when nothing comes of the idea.
Anyone, without any background or training, can suggest a shidduch, and two or three dates later (and possibly between $200 and $300 later) if it doesn’t work, all the shadchan has to say it, “Oops, it obviously wasn’t meant to be”.
There should be a board (or some sort of similar structure) as well as mandatory training and certification that a professional shadchan has to go through before being allowed to get lists from yeshivas and seminaries and suggest shidduchim.
Additionally, there should be a list of rules that any certified shadchan has to follow or face monetary fines as well as suspension of certification, or even permanent revocation for more serious offences.
This will filter out the yentas who don’t belong in shidduchim anyway and restore respect for the few that do.