Mayan_Dvash-
Just because one is involved in shidduchim doesn’t mean one had to be nasty.
If there would be a list of guidelines one has to follow it would make the shidduch experience much more pleasant for everyone involved.
I posted the following suggestions in a different thread in June.
This should all be common sense but unfortunately it still has to be mentioned.
(Like I wrote in the other post- everything is my opinion and I am not representing my opinion as fact.)
1. Don’t lie- If someone asks a question it usually means that it’s important to them. It’s not up to you to decide what’s important or not.
2. Don’t stalk- I found it creepy when Shadchannim found out who I previously dated and who I was currently dating. It’s none of your business and if you “happened” to have found out somehow you are not allowed to share this information!
3. Don’t give my name out without my permission- If I never asked you to put my name on your list but you got it from my yeshiva please ask me before distributing it. It’s not fair to my friends, neighbors, Rabbeim and relatives to get numerous calls about me when I can’t possibly date all of them anyway. It’s also not fair to me to get a reputation as a guy who says “no” to everyone.
4. Don’t use excessive pressure- If it’s a “no” then it’s “no”, if I need more information then I’ll let you know.