AZ-
Thanks for agreeing on the basic concepts. I think if we build from here we’ll see that there is much more that we agree on.
Being a shadchan, unlike virtually every other profession, requires no training- yet there is lots of money to be earned if the couple ends up getting married. The monetary cost of setting up a potential couple is minimal, the expenses are incurred by the ones dating, and failures are, for the most part, kept secret.
This may look like the perfect opportunity for a stay-at-home parent to make money without spending any. Truth is though- making a shidduch requires lots of skill.
(As I said in a different thread, picking names out of a hat will eventually work- just like a broken clock shows the correct time twice a day. If one only points to the clock at the two times a day that it is displaying the correct time, others will think it works!)
The ones who are suggesting shidduchim for any reason other than the righteous purposes are making it extremely unpleasant for everyone else. They need to be stopped immediately!
A shadchan getting a large payment is something I have no issue with- provided that they showed the proper decency to the people they helped.