“If men can’t watch the wedding video because women are dancing in it, I guess even the Choson himself cannot watch it!”
Well, actually, at my wedding we didn’t have any video (though my father made a couple of short clips with his camera).
And indeed, my wife who was in those days still the super-extreme-frum type of BT (as was I), wouldn’t let me watch the *pictures* of the ladies side! Took a few weeks before she allowed me to see those pictures.
By now we’re a little less extreme, but more stable… It’s better to be at a ‘lower’ level yet be 100% stable, than to be super-frum and unstable and risk frumming out.