Reply To: Article In Jewish Press

writersoul:

Oy, don’t depricate like that! Mrs. Halberstam obviously has a distorted perception of beauty and the extreme lengths one must go to in order to get married. Unfortunately, the shidduch world IS a very shallow and often painful experiance. The important thing is to look the best that YOU CAN. This does not (& SHOULD NOT) include nose jobs, outrageously expensive hair treatments and fake eye coloring. IMHO confidence and personality is what makes someone truly attractive.

cherrybim:

“Women should always look their best for husbands. This mother was right on the money. If a girl does not take care of herself before marriage and certainly when meeting a prospective mother-in-law; she will not care to make herself attractive to her husband down the road.”

No one (Or certainly not me) is saying that a girl in shidduchim shouldn’t look her best. Absolutely she should! If you look at my OP you will notice that I started off by stating my utter surprise that the girls showed up with little to no makeup. My surprise at that notion was quickly replaced with shock and disgust at her “helpful suggestions” for beauty treatments.

She is promoting exactly what Hollywood and Madison Ave try to push on us every single day. & then people are surprised when their children start dressing/acting a certain way…Look at what a frum women is promoting!