Juuuust a minute! I don’t want to be grouped with Health on this one! I think his comments are nuts.
a mamin – excuse me, that’s a very stupid assumption. Explaining the difficulty in a situation in no way implies that I did not come through. I feel very confident saying that my wife found me EXTREMELY supportive throughout her pregnancies (and late miscarriage, and journey getting pregnant. But thats a different story.)
oomis – Despite agreeing with the facts, I don’t see the basis for comparing the two and deciding on the more difficult. The physical hardships of the woman in no way diminish the emotional toll it takes on the husband.
All the women here can go read all their comments on the threads about marriage, and the emotional support they think its all about (G-d forbid to have any expectations in any other realm). Now picture your husband taking a siesta from his eomtional duties for several MONTHS. Why can’t you understand that months of the lack of the usual interaction with your spouse, coupled with the need to be an especially attentive spouse from your end (and lets not mention the difficulty of the women’s usual lack of interest in certain areas during these times, ‘cuz ther’s no way you’ll understand THAT), is very difficult ?
It’s very simple. Most of us are not angels, and to be by and large on the giving end, with minimal receiving, emotionally, socially, etc. is a huge task.