I would love to join a new friendly cr. Although most times the unkind things posted here are in jest or tongue in cheek, on some occasions they most certainly are not. I like to come here to relax, not to feel upset at how a fellow poster is being treated or spoken to, whichever side of that particular argument I sit on. The written word is extremely powerful and can be very hurtful. We all know posters so hurt here that they no longer visit. Some comments are intended to elicit responses; do not use (or abuse) other posters so that you can begin or continue a certain line of thought.
My golden rule, which is basic common sense, is that it depends to whom you are writing. Some people have thick skin can take a joke. Others cannot. Is it someone with whom you have had friendly battles with in the past who will immediately know you are smiling as you post. Or will they feel hurt.
It is too much to expect the mods to be able to study each post to determine whether the contents are light hearted or not. We must moderate our own posts and read each one thru before clicking submit on any contentious post.
Remember: write, read then either post… or dont!
Wishing everyone a relaxing, happy and healthy yomtov full of much nachas and brochos, and remember that by kicking sinas chinam and onaas dvarim we will be rebuilding the coffeeroom and rebuilding the holy beis hamikdash, speedily in our days! Amen.