Is he the one that said NO? If so unless you were really rude,
It’s NOT Bashert!!!
He has a bechirah and if it wasn’t your direct fault, then it’s just not for you. There is no point in looking for something thats not for you. Like you wouldn’t wear a shoe thats two sizes smaller. (well maybe some women would at least buy it) 🙂
If however, YOU were the one who said No and you’re having second thoughts, then I really suggest you review the reasons that lead to your decision making sure It wasn’t based on any foolishness.
Sometimes older girls who are so used to being alone find it hard to commit to a partner who would then have a say in their(her)lives (life). Fear of commitment, sometimes for a very good reason, for instance already opening up to a guy that then went ahead and left her hanging when it got serious or a going through a broken engagement or divorce due to picking the wrong guy, or being mislead by him.
Be that as it may, the past only teaches us to learn from our mistakes and be more careful, not to give up entirely, or shut out or shut down ones possible chance of happiness.
So be careful, but don’t let a good thing go, for fear.
Remember, it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Hatzlacha Rabboh!