soliek -“health: again…maybe i have to say it until it sinks in…i disagree and disapprove with what she believes and does, but i understand why she does it. i didnt say i justify it, i didnt say i condone it, i said i understand it. get off your soap box.”
Soliek again -Who says I don’t understand why they are doing it? Maybe You should get off your soap box? Stop lecturing e/o.
“where you see a rasha who is the scum of the earth, i see someone with a hard life who is making a mistake. where you see someone who should, perhaps, be stoned, i see someone who should be invited for a shabbos. where you see a vindictive with, i see a victim. yep…a victim. we all know how sexual abuse and mental illness are treated in our community, and i have no doubt that she suffered everything i suffered and more.”
Now you are a mind reader. You’re dictating how I think? Who says I don’t feel sorry for these people? The fact that she is using her particular tragedy for a few minutes of fame & fortune is what makes her worse than e/o else who goes OTD!
“again…what she did was wrong, nevertheless it is important to understand in order to, at the very least, prevent it from happening again.”
You are living in Utopia, not in the real world. Until Moshiach comes there will be plenty of things wrong with the Frum community. We can’t even come to agreement how to deal with molesters amonst us. We have big problems and most of them are swept under the carpet. Are the Gedolim doing enough? Not IMHO.
But is the avg. guy able to change them? No. Is the avg. guy able to change Rosh Hayeshivos who protect bad people? No.
So you trying to perfect the Frum community is not realistic. If we would replace all our Gedolim with new ones -who said they would be any better? The facts are -there is a lot of Chessronos, but no realistic change will come about until Moshiach comes. Because of these Chessronos there will be many people unfortunately going OTD and there is very little anybody can do to stop this. While speaking about it publically on YWN and other places is a good start -it is only a drop in the bucket. I don’t feel this generation is capable of complete change. The main problem is most people are in Denial and this isn’t going to change anytime soon. There are things that I’ve seen in the Frum community much worse than child molestation and when brought up to the powers that be – I was ridiculed and they continue to remain in Denial. So be it -I’m not going to change the world and neither are you! We can only Daven that this Golus is over very quickly!