oomis1105: she is wrong, and i am the first to admit that she is wrong and that what she did is awful, but i havent written her off as a jew or a person because i know what drove her to it.”
Neither have we. But we condemn her actions, not the person.
you all know that im working on a book…and let me tell you it is taking a LOT of self control not to use it as a platform to air my grievances about our community–and i have many. but i know what it feels like to want to, i know where that feeling comes from, and i therefore cannot disparage her for wanting to do that. “
The difference, my dear, is that YOU haven’t done so, and she has. It is a crucial difference. I am sorry for whatever you have gone through, and I sincerely hope your life is on track and happier now, but you withstood the temptation to be motzi shem ra on ALL of Judaism, because of your personal struggle with whatever has challenged you. She, however, takes an obvious special pleasure from airing her dirty laundry, and THAT is what grigerehs our kishkes.
i can condemn it…and i do…but i havent given up on her as a person. “
I don’t think we gave up on her as much as she has defiantly given up on all of Judaism. And BOY, does she love sticking it to us publicly. Over and over again. And she is doing it to make money. If she truly were a decent person, she would not tar the really FINE people who are frum, with the same brush she uses on those whom she feels did her wrong.