I am shocked people can compare an abuser or a collaborator happy to coverup or protect those that attack society’s innocents to a troubled young person. To equate the two is horrendous, and to say she is worse than an abuser is grotesque, tell that to the parents of young men whose lives have been destroyed by those meant to offer guidance and protection.
Is public shame for untruths worse than silent torment for physical and emotional assault?. The victims of abuse are assaulted twice over, by members of their community who prey on the vulnerable and by community leaders afraid or unwilling to unmask and punish the abusers, so leaving the victim isolated, ostracised and scarred for life. Medium Size Shadchan is the voice of reason and compassion.
No one is whitewashing the behaviour of DF, just distinguishing between loss of faith coupled with greed against pure evil.