Reply To: "LOVE" IN CRISIS

TO zahavasdad: I believe its better to realise and allow yourself to experience, that your initial feelings are about receiving which is referred to as LOVE OF SELF and then work the rest of your life on creating “love of other”. (which I believe is the correct way to approach a Torahdicker marriage) and then HAVING AND NOT LOOSING IT because one is steadily creating it,

than living temporarily with an illusion of having real love and then feeling that you lost something that in reality you never had in the first place.(which is the non Jewish way of getting married by “falling in love”)

LOVE OF SELF is not wrong in itself.On the contrary, one needs to get ones needs met before one is able to give to the other their needs.