Reply To: "LOVE" IN CRISIS

TO yungerman1 “I disagree with your fundamental basis that people do not have self awareness of their own needs.”

Self awareness does not mean just “knowing” ones needs.Its also “feeling”it.

For example. I want/need to go for a walk but I do`nt like going on my own so I want to ask a friend to join me.

Before I approach him I am aware that I am liable to put pressure on him to join me b/c I want/need to go but I know it`s wrong to do so. Accordingly, I say to myself that if he says that he is tired ,I wont respond that the fresh air will wake you up.

I realise that he may not be in the mood for a walk now(just like I myself am not always in the mood for it)

or something else is going on in his life that he does not want to share with me and therefore this is “his way” of getting out of going(just like I myself respond in a similar fashion to others when I am in a similar situation).

Accordingly,I am prepared to hear a “no” and then decide if I should ask someone else or go it on my own.

When will a person act in such a way?

When he`s aware that he needs not to pressured to do things for others on other occasions.

When hes aware that he needs to be given “space” when requests are made by others.

This kind of behaviour is referred to as “Giving”.(Changing oneself in order to give)

This is the meaning of “Love your neighbour like you love Yourself”

This kind of self awareness one does not posses naturally.