Oomis: I have to say your post shocked me.
Mrs. Mandelbaum did not say she thought this was fair, or good, or right…..She never said she agreed that people should be preoccupied with looks instead of inner beauty.
I didn’t read the original article, but what people write, tells you exactly what they think. Nobody writes a statement, and then says, I don’t really agree with what I wrote. They write exactly what they think is correct.
People forget when seeking someone for their child, that it is the child who needs to like what they see – in this case their son. Not their mothers.
This is the system in place today, we did this to ourselves and to our children, and now we are paying the price for allowing such nonsense to proliferate in the frum velt.
Uh huh. You call it nonsense, but say it should be continued simply because that’s the way some people think? I have never heard of such logic before! If it’s nonsense, it shouldn’t be advocated to continue. A size 2 instead of a size 8? Are you kidding? That is sick!! Get plastic surgery? That’s sick, too! I would understand that one individual can have such facial features that plastic surgery would indeed be suggested, but to come home from such a event, and suggest it for several, uh uh, that is extremely shallow. Such shallowness has no place in a Jewish home.
The way to change it isn’t to tell the girls to change their appearance. My guess is they looked just fine. The attitude will have to change, when the girls do not change their appearances just to please shallow women.