147, I’m sure Brooklyn Shadchan didn’t mean to open your raw wounds, simply she used a term that is used in Lakewood to describe the bochurim in the period right after they start learning in Yeshiva to give them a chance to get settled in their learning before they start with the distractions of shidduchim.
As far as learning in EY only after chassanah, I would say that it sounds like a good idea, but I’m not sure how practical it is because most boys would set themselves up in a paying kollel or to get paid in the yeshiva where they were learning before they got married so their finances on that end are set up as well as having chavrusos and things. Also, who is going to find them an apartment and furniture?
People don’t always get married close to the beginning of a new zman, so how would they be able to come after the chassanah if it’s say, Channukah time for their chassanah. Now they have to wait for Pesach, and I’m sure it is understandable that once they get settled in some kind of routine wherever they were before the chassanah, it will be very difficult to uproot themselves to travel halfway around the world, especially for the kallah, now to part from her family a second time. It is much easier to have a shorter break, maybe 1 month just to get organized, knowing all the while that you’re going. Some people go straight after sheva brochos.
Maybe Brooklyn Shadchan can explain what she has against going to EY as a bochur other than it “taking away” from American yeshivos, which I’m not exactly sure that it does because there is obviously a place for every bochur out there.