The simple solution is that the parents should no longer be involved with any aspect of setting up a shidduch. The shadchanimshould deal directly with the bochur and maidel and they in turn should not be allowed to discuss with their parents any questions they have related to the finances of the shidduch. They can ask/discuss questions about midos and such. Leave the financial consideration off the table from the parents and you will have plenty more bochrim saying yes a lot quicker.
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