I am with you all the way, BK Shadchan. The fire that needs to be lit under the seat of our boys is not the 22.5 ceiling that BMG wants to enact.
Our boys need to start hearing, “by 23-24, you need to be able to support your family, so your wife can take care your kids.”
I have said this before, but will repeat it as often as people wil listen. We do not have an ” age gap” we have a confidence / quality gap. Fix the gap, and the age becomes less of a factor.
Take it from someone who married young, married someone within 2 years of his age, and has decades of successful anniversaries to show for it. Know why? Becuase we WORKED towards our success, as opposed to being handed a monthly stipend.