Syag Lchochma: Thank you for much for the info.
Yussel: Those who are self-obsessed have poor self-esteem. Those with healthy self-esteem do not have to be busy with themselves.
Haleivi: <m>Hire someone to stand up for you and call you Rebbe. It might be cheaper than a therapist.
What gets generated with this method is definitively not self esteem.
popa_bar_abba: Exactly! You said that very well.