yitayning:
I’m not sure what you are saying.
A person ought to do chessed for other people, whenever he can, and to the degree it won’t be too hard for him. This applies whether the other person’s need is a chumrah, a chiyuv, a narishkeit, or whatever.
Of course, there is more of a chiyuv when there is greater need, and we should rank his chiyuvim above his chumrahs which should be above his narishkeit, but you can’t categorically say that we should never do chessed for someone’s narishkeit.