I’m not telling people anything. People should do it themselves, because the whole point of the world is to emulate Hashem, and Hashem’s whole point in creating the world was to do chessed for us.
The torah begins with chessed (Hashem clothed adam and chava), and ends with chessed (Hashem buried moshe.)
So yes, I would sooner have the entire world standing on their head during shmone esrei, than declare something off limits for chessed.
And I am about as anti chumrah as they come. I think that keeping chumrahs beyond one’s level is a way of avoiding having to work on one’s avodas Hashem in a meaningful way. I think that an emphasis on chumrah for most people is a de-emphasis on middos development. I am so ready to bash chumraing, you wouldn’t believe it.
And I used to think that it was a real problem in Judaism. But you won’t notice me posting about that very much these days. I’ve found so many better and bigger problems.