“Those that won’t behave properly in a mixed setting once they reach marriagable age are clearly not ready to get married. So, lets at least let those mature enough to marry meet in a more relaxed setting.”
I wish this were so. This is a problem amongst the married, single – everyone. Maturity has left the stage. Tachlis, without structure has gone the way of the pony express. And we as a community, cannot keep our heads in the sand, and write off everyone who acts inappropriately as “immature” and hence irrelevant.
The age of KAJ’s mixed graduation seating with “what’s the worst that could happen, a shidduch?” are over. Far worse can and does happen. Open your eyes! Look around. Listen to the stories we never heard decades ago. Listen to the news – and I mean frum news! The rules of the game have changed totally. I wish things were different. But they are not; we need to deal with on the ground reality, even if people ought to know how to control themselves. They don’t, or stopped, or don’t care, or whatever. Now what? Do let marriages (yes! of those ‘immature’ people) keep falling apart? Do we let young people keep making dumb decisions that haunt them for the rest of their lives?
Or do we do something. I am in doubt about mixed seating amongst married couples, but among singles I am against. The fire burns horribly.