dunno – that’s a very strong point. I actually just redt a shidduch and the person who knows the boy said he won’t be interested because she’s too tall and broad. I’ll be honest, i don’t think she’s even a size 12, but still they’re both not young, c’mon give it a shot. And the persons response was exactly the same as yours – if you want such a thing to happen they have to meet on their own.
I actually know of someone who only wanted to marry a blond gorgeous, skinny girl. (yes there are men out there like that) and guess what i almost burst out laughing when i met her. She wasn’t absolutely gorgeous, nor a toothpick nor blond!