“And why do you call it a tayvah? They want to get married. Initial meeting point is often a moot point. Do you think MO people who meet on their own are just “in it for the tayvah”? Or do you think there is a chance they want to get married. Or is that just a yeshivish thing?”
I never said “MO people who meet on their own are just “in it for the tayveh””. However, all human beings have tayvos for arayos. This is a fact. Therefore, when some singles try to get to know each other it is indeed for marriage purposes, but some have other purposes in mind. And we cannot give those others an oppurtunity to get to now each other and do aveiros together.
And no, I do not think that wanting to get married is “just a yeshivish thing”. Why would I?