Oomis: You’re right again!
Of course a person must know the difference. HaShem gave us the Torah and mitzvohs. No one is trying to “out-chumra”, “outfrum” the other. We are told to keep His mitzvohs, in order to come close to him. As I heard from a Godol; it nays nowhere in Shulchan Aruch that one shouldn’t daven while holding a cat. (Or texting!) Is that called an “exessive chumra” to feel HaShem’s ratzon and refrain?
A person may be yotzai learning (I think) by reciting krias shma. Is one who learns an hour called an exessive chumra?
Did you ever open a sefer Tehillim? Are you poking fun, ridiculing those that didn’t??
I live in an area where families of devout, pious, extra carefully religious families get so well along with ALL other types. Litvish, Chasidish, Roshei Yeshivos and Ramim, working etc. I’ve not encountered a divisiveness as such anywhere.
p.s. Due to you, I gained another Chumra in Ve’havta L’reacha Kamocha!