Mommamia, he doesn’t have to wait for ALL those things, but some of them will have to happen before most frum girls would take him seriously as a potential shidduch. I think it is slightly unrealistic to tell someone not to wait, when those things, within a relatively short time, will not be a negative factor in his attaining his desired goals. A frum girl will want to be sure he has not “flipped in and will flip out” of being frum. A frum girl will want to be certain he knows what he wants and is realistic in how he goes about achieving those ends. Msot of all, a frum girl will want to be sure he (and she) knows what he is accepting upon himself. Getting his degree, earning a parnassah, and all the while learning Torah, will show that he is serious.
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