Reply To: Dating: What girls should look for in boys

Popa – What makes you think I wasn’t serious? 😉

And excuse me for saying this, but you are one person I would not ask what a girl should look for. Just explain something; why is it ok for the boys to be shallow and not the girls?

Mommamia- “On a more serious note, attraction, similar hashkafah, emotional maturity (a biggie), and good middos. That, IMHO, should be the wish list.”

I totally agree! I have a daughter who’s new in the parsha now. She is looking for middos, honesty, caring, she wants her home to be built on true Torah values, – his learning should be very important to him, family oriented, etc. You get the picture. (no i’m not attaching her resume/profile here :)). What I’m getting at, is that she knows what’s important.

It really irks me when I hear stories about guys demanding a certain size and of course she must be beautiful. What they’re looking for is a trophy wife. Does Mr. Perfect ever stop to think what he might look like in 20 years? (assuming he’s so gorgeous now. How about what his wife will look like in 20 years? Will he divorce her if she gains a few pounds? Point is looks may not be forever. Good Middos can and should be.

BTW – my daughter is thin and beautiful bli ayin hara, so I want it known that I’m not saying these things because it’s a personal issue.