And excuse me for saying this, but you are one person I would not ask what a girl should look for.
That’s ok. I’m still willing to help you.
Just explain something; why is it ok for the boys to be shallow and not the girls?
It isn’t. But, what is shallow for guys is different than what is shallow for girls.
If you are dating a guy who is very concerned about his clothing and appearance, and reads mens fashion advice, and brings two suits when he goes somewhere for shabbos, and brings a comb with him to touch up in the bathrom at a friend’s wedding–he is shallow.
If you are dating a girl who is obsessed about the appearance of who she dates–she is shallow.
Does that make sense now?