I see. So when men want something which G-d made important to them, that is self centeredness. But when women want something which G-d made important to them, that is self-esteem. Nice.
(Also, they are both self esteem and are both self centeredness, but that is not relevant anyway, so I’m not going there.)
So, if I insist on only marrying a girl whose father will buy me a corvette, that is self esteem. But if I insist on only marrying a girl who will cook for shabbos, that is self centeredness.
And despite the fact that you refuse to fight fair, and instead just make claims that I “can’t understand”, I am not responding in kind. But I am going to continually point that out, until you stop.