A girl should look for a boy:
1. who appeals to her
2. has a good reputation
3. is ambitious
4. and responsible.
1. What appeals to one girl is uninteresting to another. Each person has his own likes and dislikes. This is an emotional thing and cannot be scientifically qualified. However, a girl should know (and so should a boy) that this surface appeal is meant to help them develop a loving relationship early on in marriage, because this “stunning” or “ravishing” look will fade over time, either through aging or habit. The attraction should later be based on who they are and not how they look.
2. The boy should have what the girl considers a good reputation. A reputation for honesty and integrity, good manners, consideration for others, empathetic, etc. are all good stuff.
3. If the boy is a Ben Torah, he should be ambitious about trying to maximize the number of years (and hours of the day) that he could learn, and heights of Torah scholarship in all areas that he could reach.
4. Nevertheless he should be responsible about his duties as a husband, father, and breadwinner.