popa: It’s funny you know men. But who’s using the CR as a shidduch database…?
“G-d made us care, because it is something we can use to further our avodas Hashem; and like everything else, can also be used for the opposite. That is how I understand it. “
You got it exactly right! We don’t have nevuah so the closest we have to knowing G-d’s will is from others. Caring what others think is extremely useful, even crucial, when it helps with one’s avodas Hashem. But you approach dangerous territory when you care too much about external opinion; it almost seems as if you’re serving other people.
Things like money, status and materialism are useful to help one achieve his mission. A person should feel good about himself but not to the point that he cares more about his friend’s opinion than of G-d’s.