“whatrutalkingabt” I agree with you completely and I think that many people in our community have children so young and so easily that they don’t fully understand how precious it is to have a child.
“The Frumguy” A child isn’t an object that one acquires or desires, like a new car. At least they shouldn’t be. It’s hard for someone who can easily pop out children to understand the pain of being childless. Having a child gives meaning to everything you do. You earn money and want to succeed so that you can take care of your children and be a good example. You want to see the best of you in your children and see them become a better version of yourself with your guidance. You want to pay tribute to all of your ancestors who for thousands of years had children and keep that line going, but you have failed them all. You disappoint your grandparents, parents, siblings, nieces and nephews. You try to find a spouse endlessly or try to keep a spouse without the shared purpose of raising a family. You try to keep the mitzvos and be part of Judaism as an individual or as a couple, but Judaism is all about family and passing on tradition, so many mitzvos can ring hollow. Imagine sitting at a seder without anyone to tell the story to or to say ma nishtana? In other words, without children you go through life like a shadow, always feeling like you’re missing your purpose. You go through life being judged by others and judging yourself that your lack of children is a result of bad choices or punishment. Imagine how that can destroy a person. We give tzedaka to people who live on the fringe of society for a variety of reasons – health issues, poverty etc. infertility definitely falls into that category.