kodesh:
“If you think about it; why is the rate of divorce so much lower in the frum world than in the ‘non-frum’ world. Don’t tell me it is just because of the upbringing/outlooks that people are raised with”
Why on earth not? Today’s society tends to view marriage in a much lighter way (to put in nicely) than we do; therefore they simply do not take it as seriously. Also, today the ideal of self-control is often a completely foreign concept, so people will do whatever they feel like doing at that particular moment; is it any wonder that a marriage will find it difficult to survive in such an environment?
Also, I am disturbed by your automatic assumption that the Frum society must have a lower divorce rate than everyone else because of some hidden defect of ours. Why can’t it be because we are more in tune with Hashem’s Torah, and higher moral ideals? Why can’t we hold this up as an example of the passuk “mi ki’amcha yisroel, got echad b’uretz” and being our an ohr la’goyim? Why must we assume the worst, instead of being dan li’kav zchus?