Rabboisai, in previous generations, people had real problems, like pogroms, persecution, poverty, etc. They knew what was a problem and what was not. They did not divorce at the drop of a hat. Today, many of us are spoiled and think that if my spouse did not look at me the right way, or forgot my birthday, then the world is coming to an end. There are people today struggling with terrible illnesses who would give anything to trade the illness for a problem that can easily be fixed. Two mature people should be able to work out whatever it is that is bothering them. It is a lot easier to fix a relationship than a physical defect. If you are healthy, why are you not jumping for joy? If your spouse sees you jumping for joy, they may want to do so, as well.
I mean we can control our emotions, but cannot control our health. We are unhappy because we don’t appreciate the RBSH’s goodness that he gives most of us. Do you know what it is to see? Do you know what koach hadibur is? Do you know what it is to be able to hear? To walk? To have normal intelligence? Those who can’t would give anything to be in your shoes. If you have all this and are not happy it really makes one wonder if anything will ever make you happy. Other problems are so easy to fix by comparison. Just be kind and attentive to each other, and show interest in the things that are important to your spouse.